As I Was Passing
The times they are a-changing...
Tuesday, May 31, 2022
Monday, May 30, 2022
Solvitur ambulando
Thursday, January 20, 2022
Memories or Dreams
I dreamed of a house that had a river running behind it.
I loved the look of the river.
I was so small.
And so precious.
It was so easy to love people then.
Sorting through the debris
One part of my life ends, the next has not begun. In the meantime, I unearth emails from a forgotten past:
Dearestest Nitsy Poo,
I love your emails - they give me a snippet of you - (and you do realise you're beginning to sound like Gloria, right? I love you too, papi, haha).
Right now am stressed doing work I should have finished weeks ago. But didn't.
As for pain, it is almost non-existent...although that part is tender and I don't quite chow down on it. Just had lunch with Sharon Tan and Leni from the US embassy, with Anna...they brought me one of those comment forms and a pencil and since I like writing letters, I asked each individual at the table for their comments and wrote it all down in a nicely worded letter. Anna read said letter and pointed out that dessert has two S's. I only put one. Which made it the Sahara and not sweet things.
I saw Hamdan yesterday and he mentioned you...I said yes, I saw the pix and did you guys catch up over wine and he looked appropriately shocked (Hamdan? Wine?) and said no, at a conference. He wants to take Addy and me out for a movie on Monday, sort of like the old days because he's spending a lot more time in KL.
I have two stories to write, one to clear, people to call, things to do, but it's darkish outside and what I really really want to do is curl up on some convenient sofa with a good, delicious book and snooze over it...
Whatcha think?
Jenn-Jenn
Monday, January 17, 2022
In one life
...how many times can a heart break?
I guess I am both sad and weary of life. All this pain. My little creatures gather around me wrapped in their own pain at what has happened. I see it in their eyes. They see it in mine.
I am so tired.
So tired.
So I will do what I did before, and make lists and get through the day, doing what I need to do to tick off those lists.
Nothing makes sense and right now, I don't see a way forward.
So I will keep trudging in the dark, illuminating the few steps ahead with the faint light of my phone. Hoping I do not stumble, but it's OK, if I stumble, if I fall, I can always right myself or pick myself up and move on.
I am only 50.
My 40s were all about the walls closing in as my life became smaller and smaller.
What do I do now?
Saturday, January 15, 2022
And now you're gone
Here's the thing. The moment you're gone, I'm supposed to let you go. I'm supposed to wish you well for your journey and bid you godspeed.
And then suddenly I feel a twinge in the centre of my chest and I miss you. I can't help it.
Your winsome little face which I loved to kiss.
And whenever I came home, you would rub against my leg and tell me off for ever thinking to leave you for a while, a bit, any time at all.
While you were there, I felt guilty every time I had to go out for a time, and nervous while I was out. Because you were there, waiting for me.
And you were so little.
You never grew.
You remained a baby
My baby.
And now you're gone.
I don't know how to deal with death. I never know how to deal with death. All the books I read, all the thoughts I think, all the hours spent with my legs folded, breathing in and out...all for nought. I can't get beyond this pain. I find it hard to breathe.
All I can do is miss you.
And miss you.
And miss you.
And reach out and long to take you in my arms but you're not there.
And you will never be there again.
Thursday, January 13, 2022
As I was deleting email
I found an old email I had sent my colleagues to thank them for their support when my mother lay dying. I wanted to preserve it some place. Why not here?
I know it's weird to write all this rather than tell you in person. But I was always better at writing what matters than saying it. When I talk, I tend to focus on unimportant inanities.
It looks like rain. (Elaine, you can do a little dance, here while Anna, we can continue nonetheless, squishing through puddles and SHOW her).
She was a phantom of delight when first she gleamed upon my sight a lovely apparition sent to be a moment's ornament..
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Wednesday, October 13, 2021
Daily footsteps on water (or I ticked my bullet journal today)
I have a pile of New Yorkers
haphazardly splayed on the table
that I have yet to clean
still in their plastic covers.
Some are from last December
It's already this October
and they broadcast a failure
to keep up.
I read what I can
an article a day, maybe two
no small feat when they can run
to 30 closely-written pages.
I have not renewed my subscription
It is too much, too much!
and I have other things to tick off
in my trusty bullet journal
which I cling to
in spite of everything
to let me know that
I have not allowed the days to pass
like footsteps on water.
Did I read a chapter of the book-du-jour?
Hadot's Spiritual Exercises,
or that biography of Van Gogh
written in the 1950s?
Have I meditated?
Learnt a few French words and phrases
on Duolingo?
Listened to Deacon Keith Fournier
recite the Bible readings for the day?
With his distinctive panache
on Catholic Online?
Have I cleaned the kitty litter?
Tick. Tick. Tick. Tick. Tick.
The one thing
I don't record
is the hours spent
in front of Netflix
as my mind atrophies
and I become drooling
and sub-verbal.
(and suddenly it's four in the morning
and I'm working tomorrow!)
Pick myself up
Dust myself up
get back to that list.
start again.
I refuse to be
just another
pandemic casualty.
It's time for Calm
and Tamara Levitt's
short meditation of the day.
10 minutes.
I can do 10 minutes
What's so hard about 10 minutes?
Maybe it will rein in
this slow disintegration
and reverse my attrition.
Later for you.